Way, way back in 1992, at the tender age of 20, I was horseless. Being horseless for an obsessed horse-lover-since-birth is a very difficult situation to find oneself in. But University education left little time, or money, for my passion and I had to make do without. Arriving home during my second year for Christmas break, Dec 23rd found me hearing about a horse that I must "go see" from a neighbouring horseman. Giving this suggestion no thought at all - I carried on with my day. That night - I found myself bolt upright in bed awoken from a deep sleep with one thought - I had to go see this horse!! I anxiously waited 4 days for my appointment to see a horse I knew very little about; a 4 year old bay thoroughbred gelding off the track, abandoned by his owners at a holding facility, for sale for the price of his outstanding board. With a whole lot of luck and fate intervening - I brought Charlie home Dec 27th. From our very first ride - he taught me about trust and together we looked after each other. He was my perfect partner in every sense and we had a wonderful 11 years together.
Charlie 1989-2004
But my old friend the "horse bug", bit again about a year after Charlie's death and after much research, I purchased the appaloosa gelding who became the stepping stone for me discovering Parelli. One of my goals when shopping for another horse - was to purchase one that was not a bay thoroughbred gelding. My tender heart couldn't handle the reminder of what I had lost. The next four years were very difficult and subconsciously, I expected this young appy to fill some pretty big shoes. In hindsight, an unfair expectation for him. For the first time in my horsey life, I learned some harsh lessons about fear and for the second time in my life, my lifelong passion for horses was almost lost to me. But Parelli came along at exactly the right moment! Parelli (and watching Linda's lesson with Walter Zettle in Harristburg, PA in 2009) helped me decide that without trust - we weren't ever going to be perfect partners. I took a risk, found a wonderful new home for my appy and began the search for my perfect partner. Could I find two perfect partners in the same lifetime?
The picture that brought Tido into my life! May 2009
So I, too, believe that life is perfect, unfolding exactly as it should. And I didn't, or couldn't see it, until many years later. It takes a lot of confidence to get you through those tragic times, but they are as much a part of the journey as the good times. Without the heartbreak and pain, I wouldn't be where I am today - finding true joy in my horse obsession, having more fun than I ever thought possible and achieving things I never dared to even dream about. Looking back, it is now easy to see how perfect the path was that led me to today.